I have had many diagnoses over my adult years, due to mental health often being comorbid, but they were ultimately all symptoms. Some of these include depression, anxiety, and complex PTSD. My most recent piece of the puzzle was my ASD diagnosis, the neurodivergent lens helped me make sense of myself and my experiences.
It is essential to find the right people who can support you in the way that you need. My oldest friend was the one who pushed me to seek help when I was struggling mentally in my first attempt at university. Building trust in a therapeutic relationship is crucial as healing requires emotional safety. I had the privilege to try out different specialists and alternative ways to heal. Everyone is different and thus, people’s recovery paths differ. You know yourself best! Trust your body to tell you what works, and trust yourself to heal.
Oftentimes the most hurtful stigmatising responses came from the people I cared about. We deserve to prioritise our well-being first and foremost. Relationships change as people change, and in tandem, our boundaries can change. Setting boundaries or redefining boundaries can feel like a personal betrayal or attack, but everyone deserves to feel emotionally safe and have healthy relationships. Accepting that it’s okay for relationships and their boundaries to change was a pivotal point in my journey of recovery, another turning point was defining what “normal” means to myself, not what other people think is “normal”. This really helped me lessen my internalisation of people’s hurtful remarks, judgements and “advice”.
I am thankful to my loved ones, family and friends who have stood by me throughout the peaks and troughs of my recovery journey. During times when my thoughts made me feel like a monster, I wished to have received the messages: our emotions make us human; our struggles make us human; there is no right or wrong way to be human; we are all fellow humans, individually living the human experience; and you will survive.